Reduce the Size of Your BUT!


I just couldn’t help myself. I had to use the wordplay!

The primary reason we don’t get what we really want in life is simply because of the excuses we create for why it’s not possible–so we don’t even attempt it.

It works like this: The creative, dreaming, longing part of us says “Oh, it would be so wonderful to have/do …” Then the thinking, rational, practical part of us says “Yes, it would, but…”

It’s the classic story of the two wolves. You have a part of you that loves to dream and wants to live an amazing, abundant, limitless life. You have another part of you that reminds you of your limitations, the roadblocks, the practical “reality” of why that life is not possible.

Which side is stronger? The one you feed!

In my own life, I have dreamed of achieving many things. I never even attempted many of them because of the “buts” I believed. I attempted some and failed, and the “buts” were there to remind me and to say “I told you so!”

However, in just the past 2 years I have accomplished more, in many respects, than I had accomplished in my previous 50 years of life. I have overcome cancer and complications from the surgery to remove it; I have run the Boston Marathon; I have written an International Bestselling book; my “Life Is A Marathon” podcast has had over 1 million downloads from 194 countries around the world; I have been invited to speak in many venues; and have held my own retreats, in which the lives of others have truly been transformed.

The reason for my personal growth and these achievements is not because I have, necessarily, acquired new skills or talents. No, the main reason is that I have put part of me on a serious diet! I have stopped feeding the wolf that says “but” and have been nourishing the wolf that says “yes!”

What I have learned, and pray that you, too, will learn is this:

The only thing blocking you from what you really want is the size of your BUT!

7 Responses to Reduce the Size of Your BUT!

  1. Fruitbat March 14, 2016 at 4:48 AM #

    A great article. I love your writing style, a bit of humour helps the medicine go down!

  2. Pauline Haynes March 21, 2016 at 4:56 PM #

    Bruce, thank you so much for this article. So well said. I often find that us humans find a way to get off our BUTS when life gives us more challenges. It’s almost as if we develop the strength we need to simply do what we’re capable of. Always good to have a reminder!

  3. Nick Nichols April 7, 2016 at 11:18 AM #

    I find changing my but to and makes a big difference. “I love the outfit you’re wearing, but ….” In conversations I pay particular attention to the use of ‘but’ noting that almost always what precedes the but is either a lie or half truth.

  4. Mark E May 1, 2016 at 5:35 PM #

    Great article Bruce! I’ve alway like the saying, “Be careful of what comes out of your mouth because you are listening and will believe it.”

  5. Carol June 4, 2016 at 4:50 AM #

    Great article! Thanks needed this.

  6. Doc attiya February 11, 2019 at 10:22 AM #

    Great article … v helping and refreshing . Well i think we shud try to feed that wolf who say “yess

  7. Despina August 15, 2019 at 4:23 AM #

    Hi Bruce van Horn, Love this, thank you so much for your inspiration! Despina

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