I want to start by asking you a question. How are you? No really, how ARE you? Are you tired? Are you worn down? Are you feeling stressed out? Are you merely living from one day to the next, hoping you can just get through the end of the day and go to bed? Is the highlight of your day going to bed? Do you dread having to wake up in the morning and go through the day all over again?
If that is you, I want you to know something. I have been there. I get it. When you string together days of going through the motions they become weeks, weeks become months, and months become years. I have been in that place for most of my adult life. Today’s message is something I want you to hear. There is hope. You don’t have to live that way! You can make a difference!
Here’s what I want for you: I want you to live victoriously. I want you to have a victorious life, not a defeated victim life. I want you to win! I want you to succeed. I want you to be everything that you want to be. I want you to have dreams and visions for your life with the mindset you can actually attain them. So many of us have vague wants. We want our lives to be fun, to be something special. But deep in our hearts we don’t know how to do it. Or we don’t really think it’s possible.
It is possible!
You might be asking how you can possibly be victorious when you are exhausted, stressed, and beaten down by life. As when you are thinking like this, it can be hard to focus on anything else. You need to find a way to relieve these emotions before you can even start to think about being victorious. Some people like to try something similar to the El Chapo OG Marijuana Strain from places like https://www.leaf2go.co, whereas others may want to seek talking therapy or alternative medications to help their mindset. However, that decision, and that decision alone, is yours to make, and only then can you start on your journey to becoming victorious. It must be said that a lot of people do resort to using marijuana as it’s believed to be one of the best ways to promote general wellness if an individual is feeling stressed out. To get ahold of marijuana, you could purchase some from a dispensary or you could consider growing some yourself. As i49 has feminized seeds, you could purchase some of those and create your own cannabis. That would allow you to have some available whenever you need it. Most people will use some pipes to ensure they feel the full impact of marijuana. There is a sherlock pipe for sale on fatbuddhaglass, and other similar websites, if anyone wants to try that method. Whatever method you chose, make sure it helps you to be victorious.
There is a great quote from the book The Art of War by Sun Tzu. “Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.”
Do you see the difference there? That was my life. I had gone to war, I was in the battle just reacting to my life. I used to talk about my life as if I was a 100 pound weakling in a boxing ring with a world champion heavyweight fighter. While I wasn’t getting killed, I was getting pummeled. I was defensive with my arms up, blocking and hoping I wasn’t going to be knocked out. Some of you are getting beat down to the mat day after day and all you’re hoping for is the bell to ring so you can crawl to your corner and get a glass of water.
I want to be your corner man. I want to be the guy who tells you “you can do this!”
What you’ve got to do is make a plan. You’ve got to stop living reactively and create a strategy for your life. You must have vision.
What do you want for your life?
The secret is visualizing the end game. Picturing the life you want to be living five years from now, ten years from now, a hundred years from now. Put yourself in the future and think about the past. When you are at the end of your life, what kind of impact do you want to have made on the world? What does your family and career look like? What have you accomplished? That’s really what it’s all about.
I want you to have vision.
I understand that when you are beaten down and going through the motions, you develop a certain kind of myopia.
I love the word myopia. Myopia is the technical phrase for nearsightedness, when you see things clearly that are close to you, but everything off in the distance is blurry. It is a great metaphor for living for today. You may have a clear vision for what today looks like, but you don’t really have a long range plan. Everything in the future looks blurry.
I love the phrase by F. Mathias Alexander: “People do not determine their futures, they determine their habits, and their habits determine their futures.” We develop our habits based on our belief systems. It is our belief systems that really dictate how far we think out in the future. I’m not talking about a religious viewpoint; I’m talking about what you believe about your life in general. What is your world view? Do you have an optimistic outlook on life, or are you pessimistic? When I shifted my perspective to being an optimist and thinking everyone on the planet is awesome until they prove me otherwise, my life started to turn around and I started to get more of the things I wanted. That’s what I want for you!
I’ve had a lack of consistent success in my life, and the main reason is I did not have the habits that were necessary to create consistent success. I didn’t put the habits in place because I did not have a clear vision for what I wanted my life to be. I was wandering, following what felt good in the moment. What felt good in the short run was not ultimately in my best interest in the long run.
I needed to break free from my myopia and develop a long range vision, rather than the short range questions. When I broke through that mentality is when my life started to change. I had to truly imagine what I wanted my life to be. I hadn’t really used my imagination since I was a child. Most adults stop imagining, dreaming, and pretending. Somewhere along the line as children an adult probably told you “You just need to grow up and stop pretending.” But I’m here to tell you it’s time to start dreaming again! It’s time to start imagining and pretending what you want life to be. It’s through pretending that we actually start to develop the habits to become those things. Wake up every day thinking thoughts like: “I am going to be a superhero today, I am going to do good wherever possible, I am going to help others, lift people up!” Start every day with intention. Whatever your desire for your life is, your dream is worth pursuing!
I want you to live your life, not the life your parents said you should live, not the way your spouse or best friends think you should live. Be who you want to be. That will ultimately be your greatest gift to the world. If you read or listen to interviews with people who have done amazing things, they all have one thing in common: they visualized their dreams. They saw themselves doing it, they dreamed about them night after night. They held to their vision and developed the habits necessary to achieve it. They never let go. The most important thing they did was seeing themselves already doing it. That’s what I want for you.
I want you to take some time out of your day to think about exactly what you want out of your life. Write it down, make a life plan. That was the problem in my own life. I was reacting with no real specific intention. Now I live intentionally with a vision for my life. I know how to show up. I know what kind of energy I need to turn on every morning when I wake up. If you know where you are going, everything you choose becomes a fulfillment of your purpose.
You can live victoriously! Think like Sun Tzu – think like a victorious warrior.
Have a plan. Visualize your life. Victorious warriors see themselves winning first, then they go to war, where it is just a matter of acting out everything they have already visualized. As you visualize your life you will develop the habits necessary to change your life into a long term series of successes.
You may also listen to me talk about this on my “Life Is A Marathon” podcast: I Want You to be Victorious!