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It is very hard to believe that three months ago today, on April 7, 2014, I went in to have a radical retropubic prostatectomy–prostate cancer surgery! These last three months have been a wild ride, but also an extremely transformative period in my life.
If you are not already familiar with the story of my Prostate cancer diagnosis and surgery, you can read the full details starting with my original post on February 22, 2014.
So much has happened in my life since my last post about this on Easter, April 20, 2014, that it’s hard to know where to start.
The recovery process was harder and longer than I had anticipated. The hardest part was not the physical recovery–it was the mental, emotional part that took the hardest toll on me. The news of the cancer, the decision to have the surgery, the complications and blood loss during the surgery, and some extremely stressful personal issues that I was dealing with at the time, all settled into my head like a fog that just would not lift. There were days that stretched into weeks when I could not really think much beyond the next hour or two. There were days when I just wanted to stay in bed hoped that I would wake up from a bad dream. I cried more than I have ever cried in my life. I was an emotional mess!
I knew, however, that my success rate for getting through hard days is 100%, so far, and that if I focused on doing just what I needed to do one day at a time, and not worrying about tomorrow, that I would eventually come out on the other side of the cloud and see the sun again.
So I did the hard work of just getting through each day. I took a hard look at my life, who I am, and what I believe. I really had to put my own teachings into practice. I had to be my own Life Coach. I had to edit and rewrite the stories I was telling myself about my life, health, relationships, and circumstances. I had to write new chapters (thoughts) in which I emerged victorious, healthy, and happy!
And let me say, right now, that I did emerge from the cloud and the sun is shining more brightly than I could have possibly imagined that it would even 2 months ago!
Physically, I am doing so much better than my surgeon anticipated I would be doing at this point. I am healing, getting stronger, and getting more of my bodily functions back than he thought I would have by now. I have already surpassed where he was hoping I would be at the 6-month mark!
Mentally and emotionally, I am have come to a place that is even better than I was before I received my diagnosis! My enthusiasm for life and my faith in the future is stronger than it has ever been!
When I got my diagnosis back in February, I put much of my life on hold. I stopped writing my current book, LifeThoughts; I took a leave of absence from my own company; and I put many of my Life Coaching students on hold. The decision to put those parts of my life on hold was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I believe this is true because of the personal transformation I have gone through in the last five months. I am a different person with a different perspective on life and living now. My perspective and philosophy have not radically changed, but they have been brightly polished and intensified. I am better person, a better version of me, than I was five months ago!
Because of what I have gone through, I know for a fact that I am a better writer and that my book will be a much better book than I had originally envisioned–I have so much more to share with the world! Because of the internal work I had to do on my own thinking and outlook on life, I am a much better Life Coach than I was before all of this–and several of my students have noticed and benefited from my own transformation!
I am back to running again, and have a personal goal to qualify for and run the Boston Marathon by April 2017 and I have no doubt I will accomplish that goal! In fact, the events and changes in my life over the last five months have caused me to completely revamp most of my life goals and I am feeling more confident than ever that I will be able to accomplish them.
My Life Coaching practice is back and better than ever; I’m receiving more invitations for speaking engagements and to write contributions for significant publications; and I am so excited to have been selected as the guest speaker and Life Coach Ambassador for the 2015 Run For Fun Cruise!
I’d like to close this update by sharing with you something I wrote in my personal journal on the morning of July 4th:
Happy 4th of July!! Independence Day! I am feeling a true emotional independence and am so thankful for the peace this brings to my life. I am no longer shackled by the chains of fear, painful memories, regrets, failures, missed opportunities, or broken promises. I see everything that has taken place in my life as being perfectly timed experiences meant to teach me, shape me, strengthen me, and to make me what I am today. I am thankful for everything–absolutely everything! I have no complaints, whatsoever!
It is my sincere hope and desire that you are at, or can soon get to, the same place of peace in your soul. A place where you can honestly look back at everything–absolutely everything–that has taken place in your life and say “Thank you!” for them. I never thought I would be able to say “thank you” for cancer, or for all of the other very painful things in my past, but that’s where I am. I see how all of it was perfectly timed by the Creator to bring me to where I am and to make me the man I am now. And, more importantly, continue to shape me into the man I am going to be!
I don’t know what tomorrow holds, but I’m looking forward to the journey!