Success comes in cans, not in cannots. – Fortune Cookie
Yes, believe it or not, this was actually a Fortune Cookie my son got one night when we were out for Chinese food!
In fact, when he cracked open his cookie and read it, he got a smirk on his face, shook his head, and said “I’m not showing this to you because you’ll write about it!” My son knows me so well! 🙂
The truth of this statement is unavoidable. You will never become successful at something by saying “I cannot do that.” You can only become successful by saying “I can!”
Think about how often all of us think or say “I can’t” versus “I can” or “I’ll try.”
Now think about where you are in your life compared to where you want to be, or, more importantly, where you think you have the ability to be, or all you could accomplish, if you could just get out of your comfort zone.
It is easy to say “I can” to things we already know we can do or that we have done before. The real challenge in life is to say “I can” to the things that are outside of our comfort zone. This is where growth occurs.
I remember, as a teenager, being asked by my girlfriend to go out for Chinese food. I always said “I can’t. I don’t like Chinese food.” She would say “how do you know? You’ve never even tried it!” She was right. I had never even tasted it. Still, I refused to take her out for Chinese until I found myself at an unavoidable family gathering at a Chinese restaurant. I tried it and, much to my surprise, I loved it. I called my girlfriend and asked her out for Chinese. She said “see what you’ve been missing all of these years!”
Far too often, people settle for average, comfortable, predictable lives in which they easily say “I can” to the things that keep them stuck there, rather than saying “I can” or “I’ll try” to the scary uncertainty of things that might take them to wonderful new places they thought they’d never see.
We say things like: I can’t ask that person out; I can’t apply for that job; I can’t take that class; I can’t stand up for myself and leave an abusive relationship; I can’t move to a new city; I can’t take that dream vacation. I can’t, I can’t, I can’t! We get stuck in “cannots.”
The truth of the matter is you CAN! It may be frightening. It will definitely be uncomfortable at first. But if you can think it, you can do it! You probably will not succeed on your very first try, but, if you keep telling yourself “I can,” and keep trying, you can do it!
You see, sometimes Fortune Cookies are right! Success comes in “cans,” not in “cannots!”
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