LifeThought: You don’t need to be perfect to inspire people!

You don’t need to be perfect to inspire people!

You might think you do, but you don’t. You do not need to be perfect to inspire people. You do not even need to be better than you are right now!

We spend way too much time listening to, and giving too much credibility to, that voice in our heads that tells us we are not good enough or that nobody cares about our story. That voice is lying to you. You are good enough and your story is worth sharing with the world!

Let me share a secret with you: nobody is perfect! Seriously. And if you wait until you are perfect before you share your story with the world, we will never hear it!

Think of the people who have inspired you the most. Think of the speeches or the messages they delivered that moved you so deeply and made you want to be a better person and live a larger life. I bet in none of those messages did the speakers talk about their perfection. Most of those messages described the difficulties they faced and how they were not perfect, but how those hardships and imperfections helped to shape the people they became.

The thought that you need to be perfect is what keeps so many inspiring writers from writing anything. It is what kept me from writing for many years. I thought that nobody would want to hear what I had to say, or that my life had not been exciting enough for anyone to want to hear about it. I thought that I was not a good enough, let alone perfect. All of those thoughts were lies I was telling myself. They were lies designed to protect my fragile ego from embarrassment. It took a while, but I got over it!

You never know who it is going to be, but someone is meant to hear your story. They will hear the story and it will speak to them in the right way at the right time, and they will not hear the flaws!

I have been musician since I was 19 years old. I have played guitar and sung in bars, restaurants, churches and convention centers. Like most musicians, when I play and sing, I hear all the mistakes I make while performing. Afterwards, while I’m thinking through the song in my head, beating myself up for the mistakes, someone will come up to me and tell me how much they loved that song and how it touched them deeply and spoke to them in a special way. The very song I thought was terrible because of the mistakes was the very song that was meant for that person to hear at that moment in time. They didn’t hear any mistakes; they just heard the message!

Stop striving for perfection. Stop thinking that you need to be better than you are right now. Just be you. Let your life and your light shine into the world. Tell your story. Sing your song. People want to hear it. Trust that it will reach the right person at the right time and that it will inspire them to live and tell their own story!

 


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22 Responses to LifeThought: You don’t need to be perfect to inspire people!

  1. Sabra June 23, 2014 at 9:47 AM #

    Loved your post, I can relate with the whole “needs to be perfect or it’s not worth anything” mentality. I will definitely share this post!

    • Bruce June 23, 2014 at 10:19 AM #

      Thank you, Sabra. I appreciate you taking the time to read it and share!

  2. Diana June 23, 2014 at 2:21 PM #

    It almost feels like someone somewhere is continously telling me from another dimension to write my book. Seriously, thank you! I was just thinking last night about not being good enough to write a book, that I need to know more or my family won’t support me because they are catholics or whatever…all kinds of excuses, but I am going to start putting things together and continue to write. At least my kids will read it some day! Thank you!

    • Bruce June 23, 2014 at 2:31 PM #

      Diana, write your book! Write from your very soul and shout your story to the world! Family and friends, the ones you want approval from the most, are often the ones who will discourage you. Write anyway. Just like you were meant to see this post today, someone is meant to read whatever you write!

      Be brave!
      Bruce

      • Simmons September 9, 2014 at 7:55 AM #

        Thank you so much Bruce. I totally agreed with you and this message has just changed my whole mentality. Thanks

  3. Steven Webb June 23, 2014 at 3:20 PM #

    Hi Bruce,

    Love the post. Looking forward to next book.

    Yeah the need to be perfect, I’m really in that mode right now. I keep making excuses to delay my return to public speaking because I’m waiting on a perfect speech.

    You see what you look for, and when I get a twitter message of how much I have inspired somebody it almost doesn’t make sense, because that isn’t what I see.

    More importantly people want to be inspired, they look for it and embrace it when they see it. Most of them are inspiring people in their own right just not sure how or feel worthy, yet.

    Steven

    • Bruce June 23, 2014 at 3:56 PM #

      Steven, you are absolutely right! You should definitely NOT wait until you have the perfect speech. The fact is, there is no such thing as the perfect speech, or the perfect book, blog post, etc. We simply need to put it out there and trust that it will be perfect for someone at the time and place it was meant to be!

      And you, sir, need to be out there telling your story!

      Namaste!
      Bruce

    • Roopa July 22, 2014 at 12:58 PM #

      Hi Steven,

      Kudos buddy!! Just read your blog and an immediate question started hitting me..”what is my excuse to not finish my book, not initiating the workshops that i want to conduct..simply put…what is stopping me living my dreams?” You made me question myself in a true sense that will help me unleash my strength!!Thank you!! God bless you!! Take care

  4. Alan Winn June 24, 2014 at 10:19 AM #

    Excellent post! Thank you so much for sharing this. Hit me like a two-by-four right between the eyes!! This is what I needed to read this morning. I have a long list of projects that in my mind have perfection as a self-imposed requisite before I can start. Your post was an excellent reminder that I need to just get over myself, past my ego, etc., and just get started. Get started – the rest is easy, as they say.

    Thank you again — your post spoke right to me.

    • Bruce June 25, 2014 at 8:07 PM #

      Alan, I’m so glad the post was not only helpful, but also timely. Funny who it works that way in life. There are no accidents and you were supposed to read this message just when you needed it–I believe that! Best wishes with your projects!

  5. Jenny Hester June 25, 2014 at 7:55 PM #

    Bruce,

    Love your post and I agree. I have a book coming out in August and it is a constant battle with the voices telling me it’s going to flop. I keep pushing forward and taking that next step. If I fail, I fail, but if I succeed? Glad to hear you are doing well and back to running. Keep inspiring us all. God bless.

    • Bruce June 25, 2014 at 8:08 PM #

      Jenny, thank you for your comment! Your book is going to be a huge success! Visualize it on the best sellers list, feel deep in your heart how good that is going to feel, believe it–it will happen! Namaste!

  6. Chandler July 21, 2014 at 7:01 AM #

    Bruce, thanks! We are so self critical. It’s amazing how much we can hinder our own progress just by thinking through the negative things instead of the positive things. My dad was a singer growing up, he would perform at church and local competitions quite a bit. I remember listening to him and just being amazed at his voice, but nearly every time he’d come down and shake his head a little, “I’m screwed up the ending again.” He’d say, as people were giving him a standing ovation…

  7. Frederick Hilleary July 22, 2014 at 6:12 PM #

    Bruce, WOOOW!!! This read had caused me to have an Ah-Ha moment that quickly changed to Oh My Goodness! Talk about me being hard on myself, Even the cliche’ we are our own worst enemy took on a whole new meaning for me. I won’t get wordy, but this passage LIBERATED me. It actually lifted some weight off of me That I did Not Even Know was weighing on me. A Perfectionist mentality can actually be both,”Beneficial and Detrimental or Unhealthy should I say. Myyy Goodness! Thank you soooo much for sharing this with me/all of us. Thank you Thank you Thank you. I’m not perfect, And I Am OOOK…..Athough I wanna be 🙂 lol

    • Bruce July 22, 2014 at 6:17 PM #

      Frederick, I am SO glad to hear all of this. I’m glad I was able to be a part your liberation! Continue the journey!

      Bruce

  8. Sylvia Porter-Hall July 27, 2014 at 12:30 AM #

    Hello Bruce! Once again, your words are spot on and come at the perfect time…when I need to hear them the most. You seem to have a way of doing that. I too once felt like no one would be interested in hearing what I had to say. So, I didn’t talk about my writing and I did very little writing. Thankfully that has changed. I take a Saturday morning class called Writing Aerobics. There’s another lady in the class that writes very beautifully, but keeps all of her writings tucked away in a drawer at her home. She said she doesn’t write to share with anyone but that she would like to begin to share her work. I’m going to see if I can forward this post to her either by email or on Facebook if she’s on there. Thanks so much for this truly inspirational and helpful article. This is why I take great pleasure in retweeting you often! 🙂

  9. Mahrie G. Reid July 27, 2014 at 6:22 PM #

    Bruce – serendipitous that I see this today. I believe what you say – but every once in awhile that fear sucks me back under – as it does many of the folks I talk to. Great to have this (re)affirmation – that you don’t have to be perfect – you just have to BE and DO. Cheers

  10. Marco August 7, 2014 at 9:18 AM #

    Great post. I will encourage my son with your musican example as he is a musican too.
    Thanks!
    Marco

  11. Dennis August 7, 2014 at 2:02 PM #

    Hello Bruce, I am so glad I found your blog. You are able to make me feel like I am ready to dive right in to the difficult things in life. I have always been a believer. However, I also thought I could do it alone. This is where I was wrong. We all have the ability to find inspiration in others I have been lucky enough to have found you along with many others who have inspired me during one of the toughest times in my life. Thanks for doing what you do!
    Dennis

  12. Chidinma August 9, 2014 at 8:10 AM #

    Thank you for this post Bruce. I am not perfect but I try my best to inspire people the best way I can through my blog posts. God bless you richly for this Bruce.

  13. Peggy McAloon October 25, 2014 at 9:05 PM #

    This is such a wonderful topic Bruce. I started doing watercolor a few years ago and many of my painting have sold at the going rate around here. I remember when I was small, the paints and brushes, canvas & easel went to my brother. I received crayons and a coloring book. You see, no one believed I was good enough to invest in the more expensive trappings. I look back and wonder how far I might have gone if anyone had ever complimented me on my pictures back then or encouraged me to go forward with art. I know I’m not perfect and I’m certainly no Rembrandt, but I love doing it and others seem to be delighted with my efforts too. I do not strive for perfection as I have learned my best effort is the most satisfying thing I can do. Thank you for reminding everyone to follow their passions. My first few pics were nothing to brag about, but I had fun and learned the techniques that made all the difference.

  14. louise harffey December 23, 2014 at 8:24 AM #

    i needed that today. thank you x

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