It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it. — C.S. Lewis
Have you ever wondered why some people fall apart when hard times come and other people manage to hang on and keep moving forward?
Even in times of a natural disaster like a hurricane, tornado, or earthquake, in which the victims suffer the same loss, there are going to be some people who cannot handle the loss, fall into despair and get hopeless stuck, or worse. Yet some people will grieve over the loss, then pick themselves up and begin the process of moving on, rebuilding from what they have left, both emotionally and physically.
I don’t think I can speak for those who lose hope and give up because I have never experienced that level of despair–though I have come close! I can only speak from my perspective of having come through several tragedies and still having the desire to keep moving forward. I’m no stronger than anyone else, I just carry the load differently.
It is a choice. When hard times come–actually, when anything happens–you get to choose how you will respond. Will you choose to remain the victim and hold on to thoughts like “it’s not fair!” or “why do bad things always happen to me?” or “my life is over!” or “there’s no way I can get through this!”? Or will you choose to think “this is, indeed, a very hard situation, but I will not let it defeat me or define who I am; I don’t know how to recover from this, yet, but I will do everything in my power to find a solution. I will adjust my life’s plans and make new plans based on this reality!”?
It’s not all about me. I have two boys who depend on me to keep moving forward. That is not a burdensome responsibility, it is a powerful motivation! We live in families and communities and how we respond to situations impacts the lives of others. It also means I don’t have to shoulder the load all by myself. I can enlist the help of others and I can be a help to others with their loads where I am able.
It is all about perspective. From my perspective, if the load I’m carrying hasn’t killed me, there must be a reason for me to carry it. Maybe it’s to teach or prepare me for something, maybe it’s to teach someone else. I also know I will eventually get through it if I don’t give up. It may be very hard, but, by God’s grace, I’ll get through and look back and be glad I didn’t quit. It is perspective that tells me the present situation is not all there is.
Life can be hard, very hard, indeed. However, it’s not the load that breaks you, it’s the way you carry it.
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